Happy Birthday Dad

Today is the 14th of December. It’s my dad’s birthday. This man was my role model for hard work and owning up to responsibility. My dad taught me a lot of things he probably did not have any idea he did. A huge part of me being a man in business, a husband, a father, I owe to him. Let me share this story.

For the benefit of many, my dad is what the world would typically call a “step dad”. You see my biological parents separated when I was one year old. When my mom and step dad met again (they knew each other since college), fell in love, decided to get married, my step dad did not think of me as a “plus one” but rather, took me in, adopted me, and treated me as his own. Talk about owning to responsibility.  I became his eldest son. He didn’t have to, we’re not related by blood, but nevertheless, he was the best dad I could ever have. He became the father I was never supposed to have in the first place. For me, that was stronger than blood. And for all of these, I am truly grateful.

My Family

My family on my wedding day

As businessmen, sometimes we look for other resources to learn. Seminars, short talks, fellow entrepreneurs, webinars, books, etc. What we tend to overlook is that, our fathers may be one of the best, if not the best, resource for wisdom we can have when it comes to our businesses. Let me share three things I got from my dad with regards to being an entrepreneur.

If PLAN A does not work, try PLAN B

It pays to always have a contingency plan. There are times in our lives where things do not turn out how we want them to be. Growing up, I witnessed how my dad always had back up plans. His bosses loved it and this endeared him to his clients. Oftentimes, clients would not work with the company he is employed with unless he was not the one overseeing the project.

In business, we will be faced to make tough decisions and even bad ones. The outcome differs from each of these choices. If let’s say for example you made the wrong choice, you can press the reset button and try the other one.

Listen to other people’s opinions

My dad taught me through his actions to always have confidence in your decisions. Even in the midst of naysayers and negative criticisms, do not waver. Never fold.

But at the same time, it’s also helpful to have an open mind and take all these constructively. He always reminded me that I could learn a lot from conflicting viewpoints.  There’s always another way, another possibility, another idea… countless times I’ve learned from my team, from partners, and definitely from customers.

Put your mind and heart into it

When you have a goal, go for it. If you want something, work hard for it. I have seen my dad’s career blossom through the years. When he met my mom, he was a humble service elevator guy. But he had dreams and he worked on them.

Some people just dream. My dad wakes up early and works on his dreams.

From a humble service elevator guy, he worked his way up the executive ladder. He currently is a top executive manager for an elevator company in a country called Fiji. Through his example, he showed me that when the going gets tough, the tough gets going.

So today, since it’s your birthday, I raise this toast to you dad! Happy birthday!

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