They Come & Go
People in our lives come and go. Some so fast you’d wonder, how come?
In a world where we get to meet strangers day in and day out this should just be a walk in the park. But at the end of the day, these people leave a mark. They become a part of your life story, a chapter of a book or the book itself. It’s up to you how you want to publish it.
Most recently, I have had an opportunity to meet a bunch of guys. Young ones indeed. So much potential, so much enthusiasm, so much bravado. But just like a blink of an eye, they were gone. It made me wonder what happened, what went wrong, what did I miss out?
You see, in a world where I move, it is inevitable to see change. It’s pretty much the only thing that’s constant in my life. Change. It’s the one word I can use together with death. They are the only things I consider certainties. We will all die and if we live long, we will all change. Either for the better or worse. It is a choice we have to make.
Death is inevitable. In fact, that is something I prepare myself with every single day. That is something I make sure my family is prepared for. We’ll all come to a certain point in our lives where we really can’t just do anything. If it’s our time, it really is.
Change on the otherhand is a totally different species. Only time will tell when we’d change. Again, whether it is for the better or worse. But change more often than not is a good thing. An upgrade in most cases. A phone that can only do text messaging and calls to something that can do videos, cameras and more. That is innovation. It’s a good change. Riding a bike to work then years later, driving a car is a comfortable upgrade.
But not every change is good. For example, someone you considered a friend who for whatever reasons ends up betraying you is a bad change. You’re doing ok at work then you get fired or laid off because business has been bad, well… that speaks for itself.
But you see, there are things that are just way beyond our control. Stephen Covey said, 10% of life is made up of what happens to us and 90% is decided by how we react. The decisions and choices we make, the relationships we build or let go, these will shape our lives in the years to come.
So when it comes to people, I prefer to remember them thru the good times. After all, at some point in our lives, we all had one good ride.
But then again, somethings just don’t last.
Rest and peace to the fallen comrades!